blog nr 50

Today I want a fighter. Someone who fights for me. Not in the sense that he doesn't have me, cause he does, but in the sense that he'll join a barfight, fight club or the army if needed to rescue me or defend me. I'm a pacifist, but surely I want to be worthy a fight if necessary. Its the chivalry of it, I guess, that gives a fist in the face a certain grace. Am I being oldfashion today? Guess so. Loosing principles? debatable.

don't lose yourself
in the heart of another
don't be who you're not
in the end we've got each other

This is the haircut i'm getting. Because I simply loooove it - and Maggie is not so bad herself. Try watching "stranger than fiction" and you'll all agree....

Love actually

Imagine your husband bought a gold necklace and come Christmas gave it to somebody else...

Would you wait around to find out if it's just a necklace, or if it's sex and a necklace, or if worst of all it's a necklace and love? Would you stay, knowing life would always be a little bit worse? Or would you cut and run?

Life is full of complications and interruptions.

My teenage hero!

Tomorrow I'll be shaking my hips (and my hips don't lie) to Wake me up befor you go go
and shedding a tear for long lost loves to Careless Whisper. I might even get in the right christmas mood to Last Christmas.
He'll be coming to Copenhagen and so am I!

LONG LIVE THE QUEEN OF POP!

remembering chrystal night

Crystal Night took place on 9th-10th November, 1938.

During Crystal Night over 7,500 Jewish shops were destroyed and 400 synagogues were burnt down. Ninety-one Jews were killed and an estimated 20,000 were sent to concentration camps. Up until this time these camps had been mainly for political prisoners. The only people who were punished for the crimes committed on Crystal Night were members of the Sturm Abteilung (SA) who had raped Jewish women (they had broken the Nuremberg Laws on sexual intercourse between Aryans and Jews).

After Crystal Night the numbers of Jews wishing to leave Germany increased dramatically. It has been calculated that between 1933 and 1939, approximately half the Jewish population of Germany (250,000) left the country. This included several Jewish scientists who were to play an important role in the fight against fascism during the war.

A) Four jobs I have had in my life:
1) feeeding fish
2) waitress (oh, at some many places)
3) selling books over the phone
4) babysitting

B) Four Movies you would watch over and over:
1) Stranger than fiction
2) Love actually
3) jallajalla
4) Paris, je t'aime

C) Four places you have lived:
1) perth
2) copenhagen
3) Washington DC
4) Oslo

D) Four TV shows I love to watch:
1) csi
2) coupling
3) smack the pony
4) migrapolis

E) Four places you've been on vacation:
1) mallorca
2) Sharm el sheik
3) Turkey
4) Sweden (Göteborg/Liseberg - juhui)

F) Four Web sites I visit:
1) youtube.com
2) aftenposten.no/politiken.dk
3) blogger.com
4) amiright.com

G) Four of my favourite foods:
1) seafood - anything goes as longs as its well prepared
2) green, red and yellow curries (with lentils or chicken or lamb and lots of crunchy vegetables - I think I'll have this for dinner tonight - yummy)
3) well done fruit smothies with berries and a crunch of ginger (I know, it may not constitute as food, but a good smoothie brightens my day - yes, I'm simple)
4) korinader (yes I know its a herb, but I get tiny little orgasms when I eat koriander flavoured food - especially when its Thai.. Oh - no - now I have en incoming dinner-problem)

H) Four Places I'd rather be right now:
1) any good thai restaurant
2) at the movies
3) in never-neverland
4) in a spa

Nature is sexy!

compliments 101

I kept thinking about this theme over the evening (which was spent on the top of SAS radisson with an apple martini and three fun danish girls by the way) and I thought about a rooky mistake I made on saturday concerning compliments. Let me enlighten you.



On saturday we had a bachelorette party for one of my friends, the point was to drink her under the table and she ended the evening on the floor just wearing a rudolph-the-raindeer red nose, a tiara, and a micro-skirt so I think we succeded. But my story is not about her. Its about Tina. She was one of the 12 girls partying with us that night. 6 of the girls I knew quite well, the rest I briefly met ant Tina I met once a long time ago. Tina has some real wicked eyes. (And I mean wicked, not beautiful, cause beautiful might get you thinking of a maybe-its-maybelline classic poster girl eyes). her eyes have this almost see-through grey-green colour that reminds you of a cat or an emerald or both at the same time. I guess I thought about telling her right away (according to my own compliment-principles) but I got caught up in the champagne-drinking and salsa-dancing and forgot somehow. During the day Tina and I had tons of fun. We ran around Oslo looking for brooms, old schoolmates and Orlando Bloom (loong story) and got drunk all the while. In the evening we ended up using straws and flags as microphones and ran on the couch singing to dirty dancing.

Closing in on four o'clock we find ourself on the tiny freezing cold porch, but our salsa-feet held us warm while we were hunching over our cigarettes and giggeling. Then she turns to me and says: wow, I think you're the absolute coolest girl! And what do I do? I say:
Oh, you're so cool too - and you have wicked eyes! Rooky mistake - big blunder! Only time you can get away with returning a compliment like that is if you're a guy and the gilr you're returning the compliment too wants to sleep with you. Otherwise, one of two things will happen: 1. the other person will think you're undermining the trust you've been showed by being giving a compliment (often giving a compliment is based on trust and courage - at least in Norway) or 2. the person will think you think you HAVE to give a compliment. And thats bad - there's nothing worst than a forces compliment.

Compliments 101 says: give your compliment when you think it - DO NOT WAIT. The lesson is also: take a compliment, compliment the other person for being brave enough to give you a compliment, do NOT shove it away, undermine it or say: you too! you will always appear false. Its better to recieve it with grace and greatfulness.

Class dismissed

Compliments

I can no longer remember exactly when I became conscience about changing my ways, but about that time I made a promise to myself to be better at giving and recieveing compliments. I started out by addressing the little barrier in my head: that I sometimes would say to myself: hey, compliment is the tool of a sucker-upper, or denial of a compliment shows modesty. In stead I thought: compliments should be honest and without self-interest. I tried telling myself I will never give them when wanting something or to cover something up - like how bad a dress look or to get a compliment. You might think that this philosophy landed me in a place where I never gave any compliments, but you're wrong - I gave them out on a daily basis all of a sudden - and I meant them. I compliment hair and clothes, jokes and intellegence, good ideas and behaviour. And guess what happened: I've never recieved so many compliments in my life. I get to hear that I'm a good friend, that I'm a good dancer or that I have a cute nose (really funny that I would hear this so often I guess - cute nose? Is it because they think that HAVE to say something nice and can't think of anything but the thing sticking out the most on me (yes,yes, I have small breats) or is my nose actually something out of the ordinary? and if it is, my GOD, why coulldn't you have given me a smile or eyes out of the ordniary??!)
I even have my own personal feel-good buddy at work now: she's this cute little chinese woman with huge, oversized glasses, way tooo much make-up and flowery dresses and she compliments my clothing almost on a daily basis. I love her - I really do.
But the best compliment I got (besides for the nose-thing off course), was from someone I have not paid a compliment in a long time, and that was a compliment in the form of a blog- post: Ben
His memory of our encounter made me blush - mostly because it was so weird to think that anyone would consider me "out of their leauge" (especially when I had the biggest crush on him) but also because its great to know that somebody have fond memories of me. Fond memories are the best compliment I think cause thay can never really fade. This inspires me.. Really, it does, now I have to go out and give everyone I meet today a compliment. See - thats how good karma works. And this is how powerful compliments are - they start a chain reaction of selfless goodwill... (oh my, i'm preaching! Stop! Now!)